I don’t have a lot of time to post these days, but this question above has kicked me out of my comfort zone.
I’ve been rambling to you quite a lot about my tween, haven’t I?
The last days it became clear to me that I need help adapting to my new role:
A Mom to Tween, experiencing lose of control in an ever-changing-fast-technological world, where kids are exposed to info that is difficult even for us grownups to absorb.
Listen to this: There was a lecture in my daughter’s school, by a police figure handling computer crimes.
The tweens were told about a lot of internet crimes, such as this boy who formed a computer games-based relationship with this guy, who raped him when they met for exchanging games.
They met in a public place (a mall), but then they went to the car to get some more games, etc.
My daughter was shocked. She’s growing in a liberal family, gays are a non-issue.
(To all homophobes among my 6200 followers, this is the time to say goodby, without saying goodby. I mean – please just leave).
She came home confused, told me about the lecture and asked: Mommy, this guy, is he gay, or a pedophile? Is there a gay pedophile? Can a pedophile be gay?
Confusing indeed for a 12, she hasn’t really absorbed this sex thing yet.
I am asking you, and not for the first time:
Does it make sense that at 12 they need to be exposed to all this?
Do I sound hysterical? Good, that’s because I am!
I am endlessly torn between my desire to have my children grow with a secure feeling on one hand, and my natural tendency to frighten them 15 times a day so they are careful, careful and more careful. I am so glad they heard this lecture, maybe she will be more careful now.
I am also so sorry she heard this lecture…
This manual that I didn’t get when it was handed out (I was too busy thinking the world is good!) – does it cover explaining 12’s about pedophiles dangers?
Nobody told me that I would become an ever frightened mom. I didn’t know. I’m not prepared for that. Help!
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