Victim Mentality in Children – Nip it in the Bud

victim mentality

I can’t. It’s too hard. Nobody likes me. I need you to do it because I’ll do it wrong. I’d really like a pencil like that but I’ll never be able to have one. I can’t do anything right. I have a stomachache, that’s why I didn’t clean my room. My teacher’s dumb, that’s why I got a C. It’s not fair; you don’t love me.  Whine, mope, and complain.

STOP!!! I can’t stand it!

Pretty soon we feel like the victims of our children’s victim mentality, and it’s too easy to react from our irritation (which only reinforces victim mentality) instead of our duty to help our kids take responsibility.

So let me give you some tips on how to nip this behavior in the bud.




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3 responses to “Victim Mentality in Children – Nip it in the Bud

  1. EXCELLENT post! Victim mentality is so damaging to all involved and breeds entitlement. I think there is an epidemic of this victim mentality in our youth and it’s up to us to help them see how destructive it can be. Just tweeted it. 🙂

  2. Thanks, I like how you remind parents to take a look at their own behavior first. Great ideas.

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